Is there such a thing as prince charming or does he exist only in fairy-tales and romance novels? A fictional character who’s built false expectations in millions of minds and hearts about what a husband should be like? Or is he the ideal of a man who we should aspire to marry?
Google’s definition of Prince Charming: a suitor who fulfils the dreams of his beloved.
With that definition in mind, I believe what made him Prince Charming to Cinderella are the things that could have made him an undesirable suitor to you and I. We all have an ideal in mind about what we would like our husband to be like, particular attributes that would drive us crazy if they didn’t possess. I’m not talking about things that are temporary and don’t really matter when it all comes down to it (e.g. a guy who plays rugby, a pianist). I’m talking about their values and beliefs. For me if my husband wasn’t empathetic or thoughtful he would drive me crazy by his insensitivity (even if he wasn’t actually insensitive but because empathy and thoughtfulness are so important to me a slight lack of either would seem huge and be a catalyst for an unhappy marriage). What would your prince charming be like? Perhaps unlike me you wouldn’t care if the guy was thoughtful.
I believe there are many potential prince charming’s out there for each of us. I don’t think that there’s just one person for each of us otherwise the odds would certainly not be in our favour. What if you were on a date with that one person and you were so nervous you had verbal diarrhoea and the guy left thinking I could never marry someone who talks that much and never replies to your texts? If there was only one person for each of us you’ve just ruined your chance at ever marrying someone who is your ‘one’.
Many of my friends are married. When I look at their marriages I can see that they have married their Prince Charming (for most of them) and I can also see that their prince charming definitely isn’t my prince charming (for various reasons).
Don’t compromise and marry a peasant. Hold out for your prince. He won’t be perfect so don’t wait for perfection otherwise you’ll end up alone and disappointed. He might not tick all your boxes or hold the door open for you every time. But so long as he ticks your non-negotiables (if you have a long list of these perhaps you need someone to vet them) and treats you well then I think he is your prince charming!
So what do you believe… Is prince charming fact or fiction?
Google’s definition of Prince Charming: a suitor who fulfils the dreams of his beloved.
With that definition in mind, I believe what made him Prince Charming to Cinderella are the things that could have made him an undesirable suitor to you and I. We all have an ideal in mind about what we would like our husband to be like, particular attributes that would drive us crazy if they didn’t possess. I’m not talking about things that are temporary and don’t really matter when it all comes down to it (e.g. a guy who plays rugby, a pianist). I’m talking about their values and beliefs. For me if my husband wasn’t empathetic or thoughtful he would drive me crazy by his insensitivity (even if he wasn’t actually insensitive but because empathy and thoughtfulness are so important to me a slight lack of either would seem huge and be a catalyst for an unhappy marriage). What would your prince charming be like? Perhaps unlike me you wouldn’t care if the guy was thoughtful.
I believe there are many potential prince charming’s out there for each of us. I don’t think that there’s just one person for each of us otherwise the odds would certainly not be in our favour. What if you were on a date with that one person and you were so nervous you had verbal diarrhoea and the guy left thinking I could never marry someone who talks that much and never replies to your texts? If there was only one person for each of us you’ve just ruined your chance at ever marrying someone who is your ‘one’.
Many of my friends are married. When I look at their marriages I can see that they have married their Prince Charming (for most of them) and I can also see that their prince charming definitely isn’t my prince charming (for various reasons).
Don’t compromise and marry a peasant. Hold out for your prince. He won’t be perfect so don’t wait for perfection otherwise you’ll end up alone and disappointed. He might not tick all your boxes or hold the door open for you every time. But so long as he ticks your non-negotiables (if you have a long list of these perhaps you need someone to vet them) and treats you well then I think he is your prince charming!
So what do you believe… Is prince charming fact or fiction?